Whether or not someone has told you, or it's something that you perceive about yourself, the concept of virginity is often used to make people feel like they're worthless or should be ashamed of themselves. But here's the thing: I don't regret Scott because I love him. From the way we fetishize virginity in our culture, you might think that sex was some kind of downward trajectory, with the first time being the best time. Then, the shy year-old me got a Hot or Not account and found someone my age near me. If I had waited any longer than I did to have sex, it wouldn't have been for me; it would have been to placate a sexist system that thinks it is "cheap" for young women to take control of their sexuality, a system that demands that young women act like they have no sexual agency or desire at all. I could lose my UK citizenship because of this loophole- and so could others. Though I regret many things from my teen years — such as my mistaken belief that red eyeshadow is ever a good idea — I have never regretted the circumstances surrounding the loss of my virginity.
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I didn't think that I lost anything by having sex at 16; I only saw myself as gaining an entry into the world of mature ish sexuality, which I was excited to explore. As my grandma pointed out years later, when a guy and a girl have sex, how often do you hear the dude's name being dragged through the mud? Where was the blessed marriage I was promised? Research from the British National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles this week claims that a pretty major 42 per cent of women regret how the first time that they had sex. My own first sexual experience was no different — I felt satisfied because I achieved a goal, but not because the sex was actually, you know, satisfying. Obviously, I am not saying you should arbitrate personal views and beliefs.
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Don't get me wrong; they definitely touched on that. But why is Amy Juergens important here? We were together for six years before we got married. There's little that frightens our culture as much as the idea that women might be the best judges of what to do with their own bodies — which is why we have to trust young women to do exactly that. Given that I didn't play by that script, there's sometimes an expectation that I regret what I did. Unsurprisingly, the two soon parted, leaving Oliver mortified by what he viewed as a blemish on his sexual history.
However, fellow researcher Professor Kaye Wellings argued that age should not be used to determine whether someone is ready to have sex. For some people, the first time was never given any weight. Even though we don't ever talk about it, and even though school sucked for a long time afterward, I don't regret that Scott took my virginity. It sparked all sorts of high school nonsense that now seems so incredibly ridiculous, but it was so important at the time. A couple months ago I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend. I wasn't abnormal or lying to myself.
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